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16 WEAPONS AGAINST FEAR

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  CONQUERING YOUR FEARS HIGHLIGHTS Drumrolls of Fear 16 Weapons Against Fear Conclusion THE DRUMROLLS OF FEAR How long you have craved for this goal How you have dreamt of holding it in your hands How you have thirsted for it How you have longed for it And now that you are so close to it Just when you are at a crucial point in your plans You suddenly develop crawling sensations all over your skin Staccato thuds beating across your heart Drum-rolls of trepidation spreading inside your chest An unreasonable sensation of bitter pills FEAR! Does it make you squirm like a coward under heat? Does it make you sweat as if you are inside an oven? All the mind-boggling prices you paid to get here All the planning, the  permutations and  brain-storming  All the sleepless nights ....... FEAR! Suddenly here you are at your tether's end Scared to the sole of your shoes Shivering like a leaf troubled by a breaze Panicky like a rat pursued by a wild cat FEAR!  FEAR is the chill in your bones  as y

10 STEPS TO STOP FLOGGING YOURSELF (EXCESSIVE SELF-CRITICISM)

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    N AVIGATORS A SELF - CRITIC ON RAMPAGE COMMON CAUSES OF NEGATIVE SELF - CRITICISM EFFECTS OF NEGATIVE SELF - CRITICISM 10 STEPS TO STOP FLOGGING YOURSELF (EXCESSIVE SELF-CRITICISM) Inside Critics The critical voices in our own heads are far more vicious than  what we might hear from the outside. Our "inside critics" have  intimate knowledge of us and can zero in on our weakest spots. You might be told by the critics that you're too fat, too old,  too young, not intelligent enough, a quitter, not logical, prone to  try too many things... It's all balderdash! Some elements of these may be true, and it's completely up to  you how they affect you. Inside critics are really just trying to  protect you. You can: Learn to dialogue with them.  Give them new jobs.  Turn them  into allies. You  can also dismantle/exterminate them.  Susan Ariel Rainbow Kennedy (SARK), Creative Companion:  How to Free Your Creative Spirit image source: home-made by mitade1 (madeyanju2@gma

10 TACTICS TO STOP BEING DESPERATE

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   Contents Nature of Desperation A Poison Called Desperation Effects of Desperation How To Stop I went down to the river, I set down on the bank. I tried to think but couldn't, So I jumped in and sank. Langston Hughes THE NATURE OF DESPERATION Desperation Such a noisy word. Such a simple but negatively suggestive word. One of the things we have to try to avoid - and make sure we succeed in avoiding - is DESPERATION. DESPERATION is the exact opposite of DETERMINATION and should never be mistaken as a replacement or similarity for it. DETERMINATION in it's true meaning is positive while desperation is negative irrespective of it's foundation, motives or reasons. Desperation is bad because it is blind.  It is bad because it breeds the following negative emotions: wickedness Callousness Hatred Selfishness Greed Jealousy / Envy A POISON CALLED DESPERATION What is the value of making an omelette you cannot enjoy? Or a meal that would spend all its days of tenancy rebelling again

13 MEANS OF ESCAPING THE DANGERS OF RUMOURS/THE GRAPEVINE

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OUTLINE A GRAPEVINE OF BITTER PILLS ITS WEAK POINTS 13 MEANS OF ESCAPING THE DANGERS OF RUMOURS/THE GRAPEVINE image source: designed by mitade1 (madeyanju2@gmail.com) There will always be someone willing to hurt you, put you down, gossip about you, belittle your accomplishments and judge your soul. It is a fact that we all must face. However, if you realize that God is a best friend that stands beside you when others cast stones you will never be afraid, never feel worthless and never feel alone . Shannon Alder https://www.goodreads.com/quotes/tag/rumors A GRAPEVINE OF BITTER PILLS It has a rainbow colours of names, such as  the grapevine, bush telegraph,  jungle telegraph, mulga wire, rumor mill -  call it whatever tickles your fancy - rumour is just what its name suggests that it is: Rumours. Rumours are products of the verbal  grapevine: they are peddled by malicious or idle mouths and minds. Rumours have wings you cannot see, but you can surely hear their wings flapping from mouth

WHY SLEEP AT THE WHEEL? CARELESSNESS CAN KILL

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   ANTIDOTES TO CARELESS HABITS "Carelessness does more harm than a want of knowledge" Benjamin Franklin   " Things fall apart and happen out of stupidity and carelessness." John Sandford TOPICS INDEX AS CARELESS AS A CHILD AT PLAY AS CARELESS AS THE WIND... INGREDIENTS OF A CARELESS HABIT ANTIDOTES TO CARELESS HABITS WHY SLEEP AT THE WHEEL? CARELESSNESS CAN KILL Home-made drawing by Matthew Adeyanju for mitade1 (madeyanju2@gmail.com) AS CARELESS AS A CHILD AT PLAY This is how an intelligent friend once painted the picture of a careless fellow. A driver was embarking on a very very long journey. He did not bother to carry out all the  needful steps preparatory to long journeys.  So he neglected to ensure that he had the following: a full tank of fuel, spare tires, healthy engine, up-to-date driver's license, a reliable working map to guide him, he also failed to have a good night's sleep or rest because he partied late into the night prior to the day of the

WHY DETERMINATION IS KEY TO SUCCESS

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TABLE OF CONTENT Tools of Determination Images of Determination Its Relativity I am not judged by the number of times I fail, but by the number of times I succeed: and the number of times I succeed is in direct proportion to the number of times I fail and keep trying. Tom Hopkins   WHY DETERMINATION IS KEY TO SUCCESS TOOLS OF DETERMINATION DETERMINATION, as stated in one of our sessions, is the exact opposite of DESPERATION. So, what`s it all about? Well, it`s about unyielding focus with a positive mindset. It`s about    refusal to give up. It`s about tenacity. Because it starts with a decision. A decision with a target at its end. It`s about a plan to achieve something, not  AT ALL COST  but  IN SPITE OF THE OBSTACLES . DETERMINATION utilizes positive and acceptable tools and options in its attempts at achieving targeted goals, thus it is flexible and does not entertain extremism - which is where it derives its "positivity" tag. It does not destroy in order to achieve its ai

15 WAYS TO REFORM A MISER

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  SUB - TOPICS Agonies of a miser Causes of miserliness Effects of miserliness 15 Ways to reform a miser AGONIES OF A MISER Just imagine this scenario. You had a dream you couldn`t at first understand. You were swimming inside an ocean of waters made of notes of currency. Emotions were swarming all around you like ministering angels.  They were supposed to be miriads of angels for sundry possitive purposes but incidenrally they were not. They were singularly emotions of misery, fear, anxiety, insecurity, lovelessness, etc. Beyond this sad development emerged an even worse occurence.  Hands from every hangle were apearing to snatch the currency notes away before you could touch any of them. A  pathetic imagery of "Water water everywhere and not a single drop to drink" To deliver andvengrester which: they were hands you recognized. They were your own very hands. And then you wake up from the horrifying nightmare, covered in sweat and shivering  .....                           *

KNOCK! KNOCK! HERE COMES A NAG

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  image source: home-made by mitade1 (madeyanju2@gmail.com) EXPLORER The Face of a nag A Nagging Allegory True Colours Of Nagging A Devourer Causes Of Nagging Products Of Nagging How To Stop Nagging Complains are like the clouds that produce no rain no matter how thick they gather. Never depend on your complaint thinking they are stair cases. Drop that thing   Israelmore Ayivor,  Shaping the dream KNOCK! KNOCK! HERE COMES A NAG Nagging. Such a simple word, yet a monster in its actions and impacts. It's so insidious, like termites, you hardly realize what it's doing until it has eaten up the whole fabric of your relationship. A little dose of nagging can raise your blood pressure to an alarming level. A large quantity of it is enough explosive to destroy a home! You can just visualize the explosion in slow - motion serialization as follows: √  Incessant crises. √  Constant bikering. √  Unending complaints. √  Infighting and quarrels. √  And eventually, disolution. THE FACE OF A

21 WAYS TO ATTRACT GENUINE LOVE

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  image source: home-made by mitade1 (madeyanju2@gmail.com) TOPICS: 1.  Genuine love is not blind 2.  Effects of genuine love 3.  How to sustain genuine love 4.  21 ways to attract genuine love Have you ever been hit by the tornado of genuine love?  Have you ever been disappointed or rubbished in Love? Have you ever been in Love or shown Love to somebody? Is Love even worth it's salt, or is it a mere fantasy? GENUINE LOVE IS NOT BLIND Contrary to popular opinion, Love is not blind. Love is not ignorant.  Love is not a fool who cannot differentiate between left and right.  Love is just not a headmaster with a cane in hand flogging disobedient students in a bid to eliminate weaknesses exhibited by them.  Love can see with perfect clarity: it knows its focus and the target of its focus knows it.  Love's eyes are keenly fixed on its idol, whose every moves and personality it understands, including the tantrums, deficiencies and infirmities - which it makes allowances for and accomm

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